Recently, the father has been trying to get joint physical custody of Hayden. He lived with us since before hayden turned 2, and our relationship has been a disaster basically from the start. He has always been a drinker, and he smokes marijuana occasionally. I have caught him smoking pot twice while he was responsible for watching Hayden, and he has left her home alone when Hayden was under 1 year old, so he could go get McDonalds.
I'm terrified that he will get joint physical because he has a very very good lawyer. I also have a lawyer who thinks that 50/50 would be a mistake, and very hard on hayden. I guess for the most part that's my story of how I became a single mother.