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|Monday, January 30th, 2012|
New To Live Journal
Hi everyone! My name is Jessica I'm a 24 yr old single mom to a beautiful 9month girl. I decided to give this a try since i hardly have anyone to talk to. As soon as I got pregnant all my "suppose" friends ditched me. Its hard to find time to make new ones since i work full time and i constantly have my baby's father nagging me every min. I tried to work things out with him but he would make excuses and not get a job. I understand the economy is bad and finding a job is hard, but that doesn't mean u can be a bum and sleep in all day. To top it off all he would do was go out with friends and get drunk and god knows what else. He visits his daughter once a month. He was in the military and is a combat veteran so i had to go through so much already while with him. Its tough but I am still standing strong. That felt good getting that out off my chest!
|Sunday, February 20th, 2011|
Hi everyone... My name's Kari, I'm 22 and I am just recently a single mom as of about a week ago. I have an eleven week old son who is just the greatest. I was trying to make it work with his dad, but he has a drinking and pot problem and violated his felony probation and is incarcerated for the foreseeable future. It sounds so trashy when I read it over... He is really a good guy with a golden heart but he drinks to cope with his emotions and the decisions he makes while inebriated are some of the dumbest I've ever heard of (ex- "I just lost my job, so I'll go get hammered and break into unlocked cars in front of the bar to find things to pawn to support my family"). I was soley dependent on him as I was a SAHM and now I'm living with his family because we were evicted from our apartment (can't pay the rent in jail, dumbass) and my car kicked the bucket. I guess bad things really do happen in threes...
So ANYWAY, I have food stamps and just applied for TANF and I have decided to go to school to be a massage therapist. It's a 6 month course, you get certified and can enter the workforce. Do any of you single mothers have experience with going back to school? In FL would be great but anywhere really I guess. I'm going to be working part time and hopefully going to school full time to get my certification ASAFP. Are there grants for single moms? I know to fill out a FAFSA, but what about private organizations or state assistance? Any help or advice would be great. There's such a plethora of information and I'm a little overwhelmed. Thanks so much in advance.
|Tuesday, January 11th, 2011|
My name is Amanda, i'm 22 years old, and going to school full time, and I recently became a single mom. My daughters name is Hayden, and shes almost 2 1/2 years old. She is the best thing to ever happen to me, and I am so glad to have her in my life.
Recently, the father has been trying to get joint physical custody of Hayden. He lived with us since before hayden turned 2, and our relationship has been a disaster basically from the start. He has always been a drinker, and he smokes marijuana occasionally. I have caught him smoking pot twice while he was responsible for watching Hayden, and he has left her home alone when Hayden was under 1 year old, so he could go get McDonalds.
I'm terrified that he will get joint physical because he has a very very good lawyer. I also have a lawyer who thinks that 50/50 would be a mistake, and very hard on hayden. I guess for the most part that's my story of how I became a single mother. Current Mood: optimistic
|Sunday, January 9th, 2011|
I have a question for ya'll.... what things do you have to do after your children come home from their dad's?
It's different with both my son's. Son #1 is a whiny little back talkin mutant when he comes home. I have to be extra mama bear on him to get him back to the boy I raised and love.
Son # 2 is only 3 months old. When he comes back I immediately strip his clothes, give him a scrub down, wash everything that fits in my wash machine, and spray down anything that cannot (car seat). This is due to the fact my baby comes home smelling like an asstray (total fruedian slip... I meant to say ashtray!) Ha! Then it takes me 3 days to get him used to me not holding him 24 hours straight. Seriously... the sperm donor must hold him and stare into his eyes (looking for a glimmer that the baby is his). Because the minute baby #2 is home he wants to be held and will cry and cry and cry until I pick him up. Hey f*cker... you made me a single mom ..... now you are making my life even harder.... I hate you! okay.... sorry, a little rant!! ha!
|Saturday, January 8th, 2011|
I've been trying to find some single mothering communities just to talk to people who might understand. it's been a rocky road and knowing others out there are making it helps, you know?
Anyway, my name is Autumn, my baby is almost 3 months and he is named Aiden Conner. I am 21 years old, single mom of course...also part time working and going back to school full time. My child is mixed race which just adds to the pressure, because I am white and people can tell he is not hah. His father was Mexican.
Like I said, just looking for community support and friendship. Kind of lonely with no one to talk to but my baby.
|Sunday, December 19th, 2010|
In your state how long has paternity testing taken? Current Mood: aggravated
|Thursday, December 9th, 2010|
The worst thing...
...about being a single Mum-to-be, at the moment, is sitting in antenatal classes and being surrounded by pairs. Everyone in my class was there with their SO, all of them were sitting very close, or hand-in-hand, or resting on each other...you know the drill. And then there's me, sat with my Mum.
Yeaaah. That didn't feel spectacular. Still hurts a bit now.
I still keep in touch with my ex-SO, and am supposed to be visiting in a couple of weeks (to pick up things one of her co-workers is selling me for baby) but the latest World of Warcraft expansion has just come out, so I'm lucky if I get one text a day, at about 3 or 4am. Still hurts knowing she didn't care for me enough to love my child as well, and that I'm not so special any more.
Hey ho. Onwards, and all that jazz. Now to "enjoy" Braxton Hicks, and try not to eat my weight in carrots and pickled red cabbage.
|Tuesday, December 7th, 2010|
Okay.. another question... how do you handle to financial strain of being a single mother? Any tips, suggestions, etc? Current Mood: tired
|Sunday, December 5th, 2010|
Question about parenting time with dad
how old is your child/children and what type of parenting time does their father have?
My 4 year old sees his father every other weekend and alternating holiday's. The down side is his dad lives 5 hours away so it's a long drive for all of us.
My 7 week old's father has only seen him 3 times. His dad says he wants Kamdyn every other weekend - but his first overnight visit his dad never saw him... his paternal grandmother had him for the night. Where was dad? Partying with friends. Wow huh?
Nice to find you!
Hello! I've been looking for a community of single moms for a week and didn't find you until today. So glad I did! Out of all the communities I feel I will most relate here. A little about myself... I'm 32 and a single mom to Gavyn, 4 and Kamdyn 7 weeks old. I dated Gavyn's dad for 3 years and after we broke up I found out I was pregnant. He was already dating someone else by the time I told him I was pregnant. So.. for the last 4 years I've known the difficulties as well as the joys of being a single mother. So... much to my disappointment I got pregnant again. This time with an old friend from college after a night of partying (insert embarrassed font here). So I went through a second pregancy on my own. O-well.... I've almost forgiven myself! :) but my boys are my life and I am in love!
I look forward to getting involved in this community and meeting you all!
|Thursday, December 2nd, 2010|
New here - Intro post ahoy!
Hi everyone! Newbie here, posting an intro...er...post xD;ABOUT YOU:name:
Hampshire, Englandfun facts:
I'm a complete and utter geek, I love to bake, and I joined this community under a different name before realising it made more sense to have an entirely baby-centric LJ.ABOUT THEM:# of children:
One on the waynames:
Tobias Arthur Richardfun facts:
He likes to stick his tongue out at us during scans.ABOUT US:how do you feel about singledom:
Very alone, to be quite honest.( Read more...Collapse )
|Sunday, November 28th, 2010|
|Monday, June 21st, 2010|
So, my ex whom has had nothing to do with my 3 year old daughter since birth is taking me to court for a decrease in support because he had another baby in May 2010. (I had another child in nov 2009 as well). I work 2 jobs, one being part time. We have the same nighttime job (want to choke him 3xs a week while im there!)...but will the courts be likely to decrease his support payment because he has another child? Will the courts use the fact that I have 2 jobs against me and lower his support?
Has anyone had any luck with using an attorney for child support orders?
I looked online in my state (PA) and I plugged in our salaries (I just used 1 of my jobs however) and it shows he should be paying 755/mo! he only pays 366 right now...and he wants less...SMH
Last time he asked for a decrease in support the courts told him no because he was in school while he already has a degree, and he also does not sign up for any extra shifts at work, which he is allowed to do...he was awarded a 12$ decrease. HAH!
|Monday, October 26th, 2009|
Hey! Well I have been in this community for awhile now but I havent been on Lj and I only posted a few times.. but I am back on and I am looking for new friends... And clearly I have a lot in common with other single moms... so if you update and comment actively add me! <<33
|Saturday, June 13th, 2009|
location:Las Vegas, NV
fun facts:I've played the violin for 12 years. I love video games horror movies and make-up
# of children:2
names:Jolene and Westley <3
ages:4 and 2.5
fun facts:jolene loves scary stuff and westley is my sensitive little man
ABOUT HIM: my kids' father?
name: also named Westley
location: Las Vegas
fun (or very very un-fun) facts: We were married for 5 years. we split about a year and a half ago
how do you feel about singledom: I havent felt this good about myself in YEARS.
any advice to give right off the bat: Things will work out. theres a light at the end of the tunnel and it is damn good on the other side.( Yours TrulyCollapse )
|Monday, June 8th, 2009|
Moving with a baby
I'm moving in a couple of weeks with my eight month old nearly-crawling son. I have a friend who is willing to babysit on the day of the move, but how will I get all of the packing done before then? Have any of you done this? How did you get everything done before the day of the move?
I currently live with my ex and I'm moving to my own place, but the amount of time that he's here and the amount that he helps out with the baby and around the apartment, I might as well be living on my own already. Does anyone have any tips or advice?
Thanks in advance.
cross-posted to singlemoms
|Sunday, June 7th, 2009|
fun facts: 138 externship hours away from finishing a Medical Assisting course
# of children: 2 with 1 on the way
names: Jaedon, Evelynn and Damion
ages: 3, 1, and due in August
fun facts: My son has a hard hit and my daughter is a tom boy
age: 22 next month
location: a neighborhood away from me
fun (or very very un-fun) facts: we were close friends with feelings for each other; after my son came he stepped up and took over being daddy; after we split we tried to remain friends but because he didn't open up his mouth, that didn't work out
how do you feel about singledom: scared and lonely
any advice to give right off the bat: just because you were close before, doesn't mean that it will stay that way
|Wednesday, April 22nd, 2009|
|Tuesday, March 31st, 2009|
Well im alone. Saying hes left me saying his name hurts too much.
The pain wells up like a smoke cloud from the pit of your stomach rushing up to your throat where it settles becoming lodged like lead making it so hard to breath.
Its been three days though, I haven't been able to walk into that bedroom without feeling ill, numb. I sleep on the floor in the lounge room with a cat that farts in my face lol. My back is starting to pay the price.
I have twin girls theyre under two, I am twenty five, and the thoughts that rush through. Who would want to take us on, I have to go through all the milestones on my own. I have to toilet train pick schools, feed, bath, entertain them. I think long term they will help heal the pain cause you cant focus on yourself. Short term though it would be nice to grieve, itd be nice to drink wine all day and just numb it all.
I need some strong sleep tablets so i dont have to think all day, dread when the night comes to an end and the nightmares start. Getting drunk helps stop the thoughts, but a 7am start when youre hung over and havent eaten in three days makes for a harder day... but its worth it just to kill the screaming voices in my mind.
I wish he cheated or punched me in the face so I could just hate him and move on. But because hes the one who left I have no control over anything that happens and thats so unfair.
I guess I'm writing here cause I just dont know what to do. I have to toilet train twins on my own, I have to think about schools I have to cry myself to sleep at night when they are hurt at school, I have no one to share that with.
How do you cope with this. How do you raise two kids on your own.
I used to think single mums complained too much, they got every fortnight off, being with him I never did, I did everything around the house with the girls and he did nothing so isnt my life harder than yours. But now I get it being a single mum is having to have youre heart break everytime he takes them away for that weekend. Watching them walk out of your life and all the love leave the house with their beings. And then you worry the whole time, are they are, are they happy, is he taking his anger out on them, cause when you do it its ok cause you love them with all your soul but no one can ever love them as much as you do.
I hate him, I hate him because he gets to run away and I am stuck here having to be the adult. He messaged me and said i miss the girls, he starts work at midday and could have seen them prior. Its one thing saying that and another meaning it.
I own my own home at least, not outright but I can afford the payments. I hade to get centrelink single parent payments, one of the questions was why did you break up, i burst into tears and said because he doesnt love me anymore. Then they chatted with me oh wow twins that must be hard, im thinking yeah and even harder now im alone can you please stop making small talk.
Bah i think i have taken up enough space and time.
And we all know the answer to all these questions it'll get easier in time. I would just like the exact date and time that will happen so I have something to look forward to. If someone could do that for me I think everything might be ok
|Saturday, March 7th, 2009|
single mom to be!
i'm a single mom to be..33 weeks AOG...
this was never planned...the father disappeared, does not talk to me anymore and is even denying paternity! the bastard!
i just need people who are in the same boat as me..
i'll be facing this alone..although i still live with my parents..and completely dependent on them ryt now..
just need to vent out all the hurt and anger somewhere... Current Mood: depressed